Treadmill

The older you get, one can’t help but to reflect on the past. You reflect on career, family and relationships. You realize far too late that the first half of your life you had absolutely no idea who you were. Instead of taking a moment to stand still and simply be present you are on this treadmill of sorts, running but not going anywhere. You expect those early employers to love you and recognize your unique talents and contributions. You date in search of a soul mate, expecting to mutually fall in love with the perfect mate. You expect your family, friends and lovers to just sense your needs and step up and take care of them.

Then you realize that all you had it all wrong. Managers see you as just another employee and you should be grateful to have a job. After years of searching for some yen to your yang, you realize that you expected far too much in a partner. The fairytale that involves someone of scoping you of your feet rarely happens. Instead you learn that nice, caring, honest and faithful are the most someone can expect from a mate. If you find those qualities mixed with attraction, take it and get out of the game. A mate won’t feel or fill some void. No one wants to step in and be responsible for holding you together. Two imperfect wholes can equal a good match. When it comes to family, just accept that you have two choices; accept them as is or go out and create a new one. Just because you are born into one particular family doesn’t mean you feel connected to them. Decide if they are worth the investment. If you decide that they aren't worth it and that you are open to creating your own family, go out there and be open to turning friends into family.

I spent years putting the minimum investment in friends. Why, because I decided early on to place my chips on romantic relationships. What I learned is to invest equally. If you have to decide at some particular moment between friends and relationship opt in favor of the friendship. However, I strongly believe true friends won’t make you choose. Remember in most cases, friends outlast lovers.

So now that you have it all or should I say some of it figured out, what should you do? How do you learn from the past and make better choices in the future? When in question about career, family and/or relationships, instead of forcing yourself to make a choice, be still. Think and reflect. Your many years on the treadmill have built your muscles. The best choice for you is probably right in front of you or should I say inside of you. Solve problems before walking away. Recognize an internal dilemma versus an external one.

Look inside, the answers are there.

Not Everyone Will Marry

People spend so much time in search for a significant other. They end up investing more in others than in themselves. Gradually you lose pieces of yourself and lose perspective as to who you are and why you are here. Sadly, it is not promised that you will ever find and end up with that special person.

Think about it. What if a psychic told you today that you would never marry, what would you do? Hopefully, not leap off the biggest building. Is being single the worst fate bestowed on man? Do you consider a single life less richer than a married one?

It is time to face that reality. Instead of grabbing a bottle or the throwing all your best tricks at first person who you deem as marriage material, try finding your place in life independent of a partner. Figure out how to financially, emotionally and physically take care of yourself. Don't do it in hopes that Mr. or Mrs. Right will come along. Instead do it because life is too short. Your life is a gift just the way it is. Make the most out of what you have instead of focusing on what you don't.

Enough Already

Okay, so today's news about Brad/Angie/Jen love triangle comes from Brad. He told People Magazine that he and Angie didn't have some "dastardly affair" while filming Mr. & Mrs. Smith.
Sorry Brad, no one is buying that one. We all saw the photos of Brad, Maddox and Angie on the beach. We also saw the W Magazine layout that they two did to promote the film. If I am correct, their daughter Shiloh was even conceived before Brad and Jen were legally divorced.

I wish he would just man up already. Brad and Angie feel in love while filming. Brad and Jen were probably already having problems but the budding relationship with Angie made it very clear that Brad and Jen needed to end their marriage. There was an overlap and people don't appreciate Brad and Angie trying to re-write history.

To be honest, all three need to stop discussing the topic. It does nothing for their careers. Brad looks like a cheater. Angie like a homewrecker. Jen plays the poor me role. They should have all moved on and no longer take questions or make comments. Also Brad and Angie need to get married already. That act would serve them so much better than stating how much they love each other in interviews.

http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20250507,00.html

Slumdog Millionaire

Go see this film! This is one is not the best film of 2008.

It is the story of two brothers surviving in India despite very harsh circumstances. Slumdog is a reference to the name people call poor kids, living on the streets of India. Millionaire is a reference to the show, Who Wants to be a Millionaire. As fate would have it, one of the brothers ends up competing on the Indian version of Who Wants to be a Millionaire. The movie depicts loyalty and shared loss among the brothers. It also has a sweet love story. The film grabs a hold of you within the first 15 minutes and does not let you go until the credits have rolled.

This is the movie to see….

Time to Take the Training Wheels Off

Hello 2009! My wish for all this year is that we fully embrace life and try to live an existence without training wheels. We have all deferred some dreams, believing that a day would come to pursue those dreams. Well, stop waiting. Stop making lists for the future. Starting today, be present and pursue your professional, personal and spiritual goals.

Let’s hope that as we ring in 2010 we reflect on a year fully of accomplishments in all areas of our lives.